This is the third part of a multi-part series on the benefits and drawbacks of Greek Life on Transy’s campus.
Read Part 1 here. Read Part 2 here.
If you’ve been out of your room on Transy’s campus for the last few weeks, you’ve seen or heard about all the wonderful things that social fraternities or sororities are doing. That’s one of the joys of living on a small campus. But if you’re like me, it’s one of the worst parts.
Many of my friends are involved in Greek life, and at times it can seem like everyone on campus is too. But I’m at least one person (and my roommate’s another) who won’t be joining any social Greek organization on campus for any of our four years here. To preface this, I am non-binary, meaning I am neither a male nor a female, so that doesn’t help when all the social Greek organizations are gender exclusive. Further, I don’t have any experience with the specific inner workings of the chapters on Transy’s campus, and I won’t pretend that I do. To be completely honest, I don’t want that knowledge.
Social fraternities have so many stereotypes associated with them, and I know you aren’t supposed to judge a book by its cover, but the more I learn about and the more experience I have with the social Greek life on campus, the more it seems to fit into those stereotypes. Greek organizations have overlooked some pretty major flaws in their members, and are not always taking disciplinary measures for actions that should warrant them. I look around and I see that one fraternity is for the party-ers, one is for the racists, one accepts everyone and then the other has like six members on campus.
Sororities, on the other hand, have their own unique challenges that put me off of them as well. Most of the sorority girls I’ve met have been kind and welcoming, or at least not outright disrespectful to my face. However, the sorority as an organization tends to be elitist, and snobby. The organization as a whole, and the members when in groups of more than about three usually, often give off–to me at least– an air of superiority. Each sorority has its own associations on campus, and I tend to get the feeling that the members think they’re better than non-members because of those special differences in the sororities.
I understand the purpose of a social organization like Greek life is to create a space for like minded people, but there are infinitely better ways to find those people than elitist, xenophobic hierarchical organizations with only that purpose. I understand that many fraternities have other regulations, such as service and grade requirements, but the focus seems to almost always be on social events, and what dances or functions or food events or smokers are going on when.
This campus is so ingrained in social Greek life that many other groups and organizations build their practice or meeting schedules around Greek life events. No groups meet on Monday night, because all the socials meet then. Multiple times I’ve had meetings rearranged or cancelled because one fraternity or the other was having a function. Often times, you feel left out if you aren’t a part of social Greek life because so much of Transy’s social life is Greek life.
Greek Series 4: Greek life’s benefits only for ‘natural insiders’
This is the fourth part of a multipart series on the benefits and drawbacks of Greek Life on Transy’s campus.
Read Part 1 here. Read Part 2 here. Read Part 3 here.
“Everyone should rush!” “Why didn’t you join a sorority?”
Greek members talk about sororities and fraternities like they’re just something you decide to join, and that’s all there is to it. You just sign up, and bam, instant insider. Instant meaningful relationships, instant support. Sign your name here, hand over some cash and it’s yours for the having. Brothers or sisters for life. Who wouldn’t rush?
But the rush process is not as simple – or as positive – as it’s casually conveyed. The thing is, if you “become” a member of a Greek organization, you’ve really been an insider all along. You fit in with the men or women of that organization before you even met them. What I mean is that even if you want to be part of a social Greek group, even if you want this support and love, the organization first has to consider you a natural insider. It must be a destined match. And if you don’t match, this support isn’t yours for the having. You can’t just take the support- you have to fit in. The members have to want you. And this is where the logic of the “everyone should rush” inclusive mindset falls through.
The rush process is hypocritical. The goal is simultaneously to welcome you and size you up. Good god, the thought of having my face plastered on the wall via PowerPoint slide for members to vote on whether they want me in their social group makes me want to scream. Don’t tell me that doesn’t happen, because I know it does. You can try to spin it positively, downplay the negative side. You might even accept it as a necessary evil. But I can’t get the image out of my head of one of my friend’s faces, upset at not receiving a bid from the sorority sisters she wanted, then trying again next year and not receiving a bid from anyone at all. Because she wasn’t a natural insider, she wasn’t eligible for that “instant support” the sororities advertised.
There is no room in Greek organizations for natural outsiders. So all those benefits of rushing a frat? All those positives of sorority life? All those statistics on Greeks having better mental health, GPAs, campus involvement, community engagement, and graduation rates? Great for them: but they’re only for the natural insiders. They simply defend the insiders’ logic. They confirm what those insiders already know and experience. They’re obvious to everyone, inside and out. They mean nothing for the natural outsider. And they disguise and distract from the core problem that these organizations are socially exclusive by nature. Which, as I’m led to believe, is the opposite of Transy’s educational goal. But that’s a different letter.